As you well know by now, there are a handful of blogs that I check every single day. I’ve mentioned them dozens of times and I have a great deal of respect for all of them. Not the least of them has been TheBloggess. Yesterday, she made a post, a short post, simply meant to be a silly little joke directed at a form-letter pitch she got from a sugar company asking her to write a limerick about their sugar.
Their first mistake was asking Jenny to write them a limerick, because she did and it rhymed and everything and it was totally inappropriate, which is what made it hilarious and made me love it. It was a joke, that is all, but not everyone took it that way. In fact, it raised quite a bit of a stir and many folks were horribly offended. As of this writing, she had 336 comments on that post and some of them really attempted to ream her a new one, while many of her most adoring fans such as myself, defended her.
Let me just say this, Jenny doesn’t need any defending. She’s GOT this! She didn’t just “let it go” and stay away from it. She acknowledged those who expressed offense and spoke to their concerns, even editing a comment to the end of the original post to do so. She made 1 comment, a single one, addressing those who were offended. She recognized the concerns that people had raised and withstood the anger that was directed at her for the post.
What she did NOT do was alter the original post, delete it or otherwise make it change to suit the needs of everyone. She left it right where it was as she had originally written. What she also did NOT do was apologize for having written it, nor do I believe that she should have. She stood by what she wrote and presented it for what it was, satire and comic relief, and if you can’t deal with that then Jenny’s blog probably isn’t the material you’re looking for, because that is what she does!
Jenny reacted with poise and grace and didn’t succumb to firing back angrily. She basically said “this is me, take it or leave it, but I’m happy with it” and this reaction only served to build my respect and admiration for her even more.
If you’re easily offended, neither this blog nor pretty much any blog you see listed in my sidebar are places you need to be hanging around, because at some point, one of us is going to do it and probably sooner rather than later. The only possible exception to that is Greg over at Telling Dad; his blog is as clean as you can get and still post pics of his wife’s head in the toilet. The man bought a fire truck for crying out loud! Not a toy one, an actual fire truck, to share with neighborhood children!
This blog in particular is a release for me. I let out my frustrations here and I tell you what I think and how I feel and you might not always agree with it, but for me it is my therapy. I take stuff that sucks in my life and I make it funny to share with you. I also take the amazing things that happen in my life and share those with you as well, because I can’t keep them to myself. In either case, somebody, somewhere is going to get offended at some point. It happens.
If you are offended and you need to get it off your chest and are so compelled to comment that you just can’t help yourself, let me give you a few guidelines:
- If you post anonymously or give yourself a name like “Eric sucks donkey balls”, your rebuttal loses any inkling of respect it may have had. If you’ve got something to say, be ready to stand behind it, proud of who you are; I did.
- Tell me what you’re offended about. Just “popping in” in to tell me I’m a dick doesn’t get you anywhere . . . and I already know, so it’s not really news either.
- Threaten to tell EVERYONE to stay away from my blog because I’m a dick. You’ll triple my readership in an hour, and I thank you.
- Respond carefully. Many of the regular people that read my blog share my sense of humor, and if you’re moved enough to start a fire, you’re going to feel outnumbered when the fire department shows up. I’m just saying be prepared to stand your ground.
- Consider that this is MY blog. I don’t get paid to write it, you don’t pay me to keep writing, and unless you are ready to pay me a considerable amount of money to STOP writing it, I’m not going to. The choice to be here is yours and I welcome any and all people to stop by and enjoy their time here and bring their friends with them. If it isn’t fun or enjoyable for you anymore, then part ways.
On the other side of that, I will not edit or remove your comments. I’m not deleting what I said, so I’m not going to delete what you said either. Honest, sincere criticism is welcome and I will address your concern properly when I am addressed properly.
If you want to know how that is done, check out Sherry’s response (comment 185). Sherry was hurt and offended by Jenny’s limerick, but the way she decided to approach it was nothing short of perfect. She used her name, expressed her feelings and explained why she felt the way she did in a complete, firm and yet, non-confrontational way. Sherry even made a post about it on her own blog, in which Jenny was kind enough to respond and comment in return, and even sent her an apparently quite meaningful private email. From what I can tell, I think both of these ladies shook hands on this one and they may each have a new reader.
I know this, Jenny kept this reader, and Sherry earned me as a new one. These girls have class and could teach everyone a few lessons in how to get along.
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